• Lightfire228@pawb.social
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    Are there people whom you look at, but don’t experience sexual attraction to?

    Imagine that’s every person. No matter who they are or what they look like, they’re just… other humans. You never have any desire, nor need to be close with someone. That entire part of life just doesn’t exist.

    Now imagine that every time you get turned on, it’s just the “physical” aspects. You feel the hormones, the need to release some tension. But it’s never tied to a particular person or body part.

    The sensation is akin to being hungry, but not “in the mood” to eat anything


    I should note, that this is just my personal experiences, and is not universal. Some aces still want romantic relationships (I don’t: aka aroace).

    Also, some aces are “sex averse”, and can even find masturbation annoying or unpleasant in some way

    Alternatively, some aces can have fetishes or reliable turn-on’s

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      You know, you’re totally right, we “do” need a term for always being hungry but never in the mood to eat anything.

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        But we already have that? The term is “being hungry”. Hunger and appetite are 2 different things, that’s why we have 2 different words for them

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      Now imagine that every time you get turned on, it’s just the “physical” aspects. You feel the hormones, the need to release some tension. But it’s never tied to a particular person or body part. The sensation is akin to being hungry, but not “in the mood” to eat anything

      Thank you. This actually really cleared up the middle row of the comic for me.

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        Mostly ask when I’m gonna get a girlfriend / married / or have kids

        Although, most of the relatives have stopped asking, or just accepted that I’ll always be single

        Also, boy “locker room” talk always made me uncomfortable

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          Thanks for indulging me. If I may? I’m not from the U.S., didn’t have locker rooms in schools. What is locker room talk?

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            Mostly boys admiring the boobs or butts of girls

            Them: “Yo man, check out her ass… She’s so hot”

            How i want to reply: “Yep, that’s a gluteus maximus, although I don’t see her sweating”

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            Locker room talk doesn’t literally have to happen in a locker room, it’s just slang for talking about womens sex appeal whilst in a group of men without any women present

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          I’m not ace but I can’t stand that shit. Also the way men feel the need to subtlety bully each other as part of their friendship.