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You don’t need an excuse. If you’re at a party and no longer want to be there, say “I have to go now, thanks for the great party” to the host and leave
No one cares why you’re leaving. I’m probably well on the neurotypical end of the spectrum and I’m usually there first in my friend group to leave a party just because parties are late and I wake early. No one complains unless I’m their lift home and they don’t want to leave yet
neurotypical end of the spectrum
Not how the spectrum works. There’s no “neurotypical” end. Assuming we’re talking about autism, the spectrum refers to the diversity and expression of symptoms, rather than a gauge between “no autism” and “full autism”.
If you meant you are less debilitated by your autism, then the term is “Level 1”, which is just low support needs.
I’m personally a fan of the little wheel where you scale your symptoms (idk if that’s the right word) 1-5 because even “neurotypical” people will still probably have a 2 or higher in at least one category
- “I have to go now, thanks for the great party”
- “Noo c’mooon whyyyy?”
Aaand now I’m stuck between being incredibly blunt, which I don’t like at all, or making up an excuse on the spot (which I suck at)
Better to just make up the excuse beforehand.
Personally if you tell me you do things because of your astrology bullshit I will hate you much more than if you just say you’re autistic.
You aren’t wrong but, I have a feeling you’re not among the kind of people that the poster is talking about.
That’s true. You know, I’m not like most people.
I’m
an idiot
Typical Leo
Wait how much would you hate us for saying we’re autistic?!
Not even a little bit. I have zero issues with autistic people. Astrology people, on the other hand…
The key isn’t in managing whether people like your or not, the key is in not wasting time with followups. If you say you’re on the spectrum, you’ve started a conversation, if you say you’re into astrology, people who believe in it move on and people who don’t have done this before and realized that this is not a conversation they want to have.
Hahahaha so true
Would you ask any follow up questions about astrology or try to get me to stay?
In the past, in parties I just left and didn’t give a fuck . Period. And if anyone asked me later I said I had a great time but at one point it was enough fun.
I used to do what we called backdooring it as in you just leave without telling anybody. That way you don’t have to deal with all the drunk people saying “come on just stay a bit longer” etc.
As me :) hahaha i didn’t knew there is a word in english for that
Yeah it’s pretty common in my friend circle.
I could say to Ste “Where did you go last night” and he might say “Aww bro I had to backdoor it me, had enough”.
In my circle we call this an Irish Goodbye, and it is celebrated.
Honestly as your run-of-the-mill introvert I wouldn’t even go to a party
I’ll go, but I just hover around the outside the action and watch.
Honestly, leave off the overwhelmed and they’ll all question whether they shouldn’t leave the party too!
It’s insane to me that someone who has trouble socializing would force themselves to go to parties. Maybe it’s something I’m too autistic to understand. Disabilities are suppose to get you out of doing shit. For example I use my epilepsy to never step foot in a club cuz lights. I’m not even photosensitive 😂
For the longest time I would try to push myself out of my comfort zone. I thought eventually my feelings about doing “normal people stuff” would change. They did not.
The thing is, it can be really hard to accurately assess why you feel an aversion to things, and whether or not that aversion is misplaced. I can come up with scads of seemingly reasonable objections to, for example, going to the gym. That doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t benefit from it.
Overcoming an innate aversion that you’ve convinced yourself is a part of who you are can be life-changing.
That sounds like something normal people do.
“Parties” is barely a category, everyone has a different idea of what one should be. There’s A LOT of variation. To some people it’s sitting around a table playing board games, to others it’s about getting drunk and hooking up, and anywhere in between.
Personally I’m AuDHD and I can stans certain types of parties and not others. I actually kinda hate playing board games and prefer going out as long as there’s music. Lots of bodies present isn’t a problem for me, it’s actually the opposite. The worst type of party is one where I’m expected to socialize as the main event.
At work we all sing happy birthday, I hate it when it’s my turn
