people do not quit jobs, they quit managers and I personally would like to quit some coworkers.
Basically the manager says in public that I’m good and passionate about the job but privately she writes the opposite. She never talked to me about what I need to improve, if anything. And then has the gall to tell me to trust her if I want to open up to her. Two faced, not to trust.
I only found out when another manager read to me what she wrote about me.
I was never good at playing office politics. FWIW I don’t like the job, I do it because I need money and I’m good at it.
That was a big reason for me leaving my old job.
Most of the jobs I have left has been as a form protest. Manager/boss say or do something then I am happy to take my labour to a new career.
We’re all worth respect and if a job can’t offer that then they aren’t worth our labour.
How di$re$pected are you? To me as long as I am re$pected I stay unless someone offers me more re$pect.
Mental health is important too.
Personally I’d find another job first. Once that is secure I’d plan my exit.
If your company does exit interviews I’d be frank and honest about your reasons for leaving. Consider having a quick outline prepared of what you want to tell them. I don’t burn bridges on my way out when possible, but if you can articulate your problems well it might help the next person.
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Do you think this person will sign off on raises or promotions, or any other benefits?
Dump them. In your exit interview say, “manager has declined to comment on my performance, but has shared criticisms with other people. Understanding and improving the quality of my work is important, and I do not believe I am able to do that when facts are concealed from me.”
In general I always apply for a few jobs per year, even if I like my job. If I’m feeling unhappy at work, I’ll apply for about 20 jobs per day.
It never hurts to keep your options open for a salary increase, practice your interview skills, and learn what other companies are interested in.
Start looking for another job.
Your job isn’t loyal to you, why should you be loyal to your job?
You don’t need justification to change jobs. Feeling like you want to is enough reason.
You need to leave.
This person is going to be a future block for you.
Be cordial as you can for two weeks, and honest as you’re comfortable on the exit interview (especially if you have receipts).
Any reason is good enough to quit a job if you’re thinking of quitting.
What matters is how you feel going in each day.
I would advise when possible to not quit until you’ve got something else lined up however.
If your manager is telling you that you are doing a good job and has no notes on your performance, but telling the higher-ups at the company or other management level employees something other than exactly that, it’s no longer an issue of respect at that point. Your work environment is toxic.
Start seeking other positions. Take your time and interview carefully - remember to ask good questions that will help you get an idea of whether or not it would be a place that you can enjoy working at, or at the very least tolerate on a day-to-day basis.
If they ask you why you are quitting, wait until your exit interview to spill any details about your manager going behind your back. Do not accept counter-offers for continued employment (retaliation is very likely if you do stay) and don’t bother trying to hash out any grievances with the person conducting your exit interview (their promises are almost never backed up by action, just hot air to get you to stay and trap you where you are). Walk in there confident knowing that you committed to changing jobs over this.
Agreed. There are really only two reasons managers do that. Either they want to deny raises or they want to fire you. Both need a paper trail, and neither is affected by what they say to coworkers. Either way it’s time to interview with other companies.
The only answer here is “do what you want but make sure you have a plan”.
If you have one on one meetings it might be a good opportunity to ask (depending on the circumstances the other manager told you the feedback).
If you want to leave, then it’s enough reason to leave, but I would strongly recommend finding a new job before quitting.
people do not quit jobs
Bullshit. I’ve quit jobs before. like the job I had at a veneer mill. It was boring me to tears, was so loud that ear-pro was mandatory–about 110dB, IIRC–and I was spending about an hour each day digging splinters out of my hands. (Couldn’t wear gloves b/c they didn’t have the dexterity needed for picking up a single sheet of veneer without breaking it.) I don’t think I even saw my manager more than a few times in the brief period i worked there.
People also quit because of low pay. I guess I’m lucky to have never had a bad manager, but that hasn’t stopped me from quitting 😅
