Hi Lemmy,
Apologies if this is a dumb question.
I have a trans person that I supervise and I know he is having a hard time after Trump’s only two genders executive order.
Is there anything I can do to make sure that he feels supported at work?
I have regular check-in meetings with my staff so I was hoping to see how he was doing, but don’t want to force him into an uncomfortable discussion.
Note: His performance is still excellent at his job so this isn’t a “coaching conversation” or anything like that
Also, resist any government mandates that want to know where/ how many
jewstrans people are in your department. It’s not your job to help anyone make other people’s lives miserable.I didn’t hear about any mandates yet but if it does I’ll make sure all management is on the same page.
Continue treating him with respect. I’m kinda assuming you’re in government, but I guess that’s not clear from the post. If you are, maybe let him know that the executive order will not impact how you treat him, and offer him space to ask questions or raise concerns.
l’m a librarian so yes the government, but nlt the federal government.
Simply treating that person like a human being would be a good start.
Also, maybe treat him like everyone else, as giving him special treatment would beat the point of equality.
No need for all that fancy stickers.
If you’re not sure, just ask. I’m sure he’d appreciate it more if you ask him directly instead of asking a bunch of internet strangers. Let it be an awkward talk if needs be.
I appreciate that, and I do try my best to treat everyone fairly. As for asking random people on the internet, I just wanted more outside perspectives than just the people around me.
Fair enough
I tackle this two ways.
I ensure that I have a progress pride bracelet, pin, or other clearly visible symbol of allieship on me at all times. I also have prominently displayed safe space signage around my office. There should be zero ambiguity of my support - my hope is that this both makes 2SLGBTQIA+ and any other marginalized individuals feel welcome around me, and I also find it reduces inappropriate jokes or comments from the broader organization. People KNOW that I will make a stink if they are assholes. I try to ensure a safe bubble around me.
The other thing I do is try to make it clear to my team that I care about them as people - they aren’t cogs in a machine.
Ultimately, it’s up to my team members to decide if talking with me will help or hurt. I just try to make sure that my door is wide open.
I haven’t heard of 2S before, but what you say is right. Keep being supportive, protect their privacy, and ensure that people who are marginalising them, get the right consequences.
Two-spirit. Used by Indigenous North Americans to describe Native people who fulfill a traditional third-gender social role in their communities.
Aah, thank you! Interesting, didn’t know that that was a thing.
AFAIK it’s primarily (exclusively?) a Canadian thing
Honestly, and this is IMO, just ask him. You laid it out nearly perfectly.
Is there anything I can do to make sure you feel comfortable and supported at work.
Approaches aren’t one size fits all, but just establishing a discussion and setting the precedent that you are open to further discussion is a great starting point.
I’ve had trans reports in the past when I was a supervisor (TBF, the world was a lot different). Two things that I’d recommend:
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Continue being a good lead and treating them with respect, using their preferred pronouns, etc. Intervene gently but firmly if there is inappropriate derogatory stuff going on in the workplace.
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If possible, I’d get a 1:1 meeting with them and outright ask “Do you want to talk with me about how current events are impacting you and anything that I can do to ensure that you feel supported?”. If they say “no” or aren’t comfortable, ensure that they know that that’s ok and that the offer is there.
As a disclaimer, I am neurospicy so, there may be gentler ways to approach but I have found that clearly and directly communicating that genuine support is there, if they need it want it and giving them a way to ask is generally well-received.
I’d say instead of setting up a meeting, just take a second on a quiet day and ask how they’re going, if they want any support or to talk. It still has the same positive effect, but an outright scheduled meeting feels a bit weird, my first assumption for one is negative (though again, it could just be me).
Some great points though, I’m sure they’d recognise the intent to be good.
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I cannot imagine they want to discuss this with someone from work of all places… be open and kind is already good
I’m not trans, but having support from managers while going through hard things has absolutely been helpful for me in the past. I’d guess it likely varies from person to person… but overall I don’t think knowing your manager has your back is a bad thing.
You’re right. That isn’t bad.
That’s a thin ice you’re walking here… Some people appreciate the support, some people don’t like when work contacts get into their personal feelings territory.
It’s highly dependent on how close your interpersonal relationship is with co-worker, what I’d avoid for sure is suddenly closing the distance just because you know he is trans and you can tell recent events are affecting him.
I appreciate that, thank you
I’d probably just say something non-pressuring but supportive like “I know with everything that is going on recently that things may be challenging for you right now. If you need anything please don’t hesitate to reach out to me and I’ll support you in any way I can.”
Or, if you’re a little more friendly: “Fuck trump, eh? What a piece of shit. Let me know if I can help at all, so sorry about all this”
it’s best to ask trans people: hexbear has the largest trans communities and i would ask there.
But, then again, it’s hexbear…
opinions like this are the reason why it has coalesced into most active trans safe spaces on lemmy, it’s the furthest place away from shit takes like these due to defederation; the majority once again pushes vulnerable people into the margins of society where they then flourish.
Nah. Blahaj is also a safe space and well moderated without impinging on others enjoyment. Hexbear actively discourages other communities from participation, not with prejudice but with memes and childishness.
There are probably lots of great communities on hexbear but their bigger ones give a bad reputation to the instance in general. I’ve interacted with some great members in communities on non hexbear instances but for my instance at least, defederation was a net benefit.
If federation allows blocking communities, rather than instances in the future, that could change. However, currently it’s only on a per user basis, so it becomes tiresome.
