Why are most people here are negative and rude?

Just to be clear here, I am not talking about instance, rather I am asking about the whole community.

There is no one I seen here who even had expressed any passion towards anything really.

I cannot understand how did that happen?

  • Libra00@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    10 days ago

    Selection bias mostly, you only remember the negative interactions. I’m new here but I’ve not run into any particularly negative or rude people so they don’t seem super common, nowhere near like reddit.

    • PixelPilgrim@lemmings.worldEnglish
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      10 days ago

      yeah i noticed they tend to go after certain posts and they need to be primed by either downvotes or a comment. the rude people will be quiet if you make safe posts but if they get a hint that there other people that don’t like you then they dogpile. i noticed a good way to trigger it is to basically say or imply you do things without their approval or you dont care what they think

      • Libra00@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        10 days ago

        That sounds… rather conspiratorial.

        Also, just yesterday I posted a longish rant about doing what you want and not caring about what people think in a comment and the only reply I got was ‘This is the kind of pep talk I need!’, so… shrug Guess we travel in different circles.

        • PixelPilgrim@lemmings.worldEnglish
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          10 days ago

          well i don’t say that its orchestrated or premeditated, its generally that group wants to feel part of a group and they look for signs that they’re part of a group. the “tipping point” is a comment (or even a downvote on op replies) and then people that seek approval align themselves with the largest group.

          I told the anti ai crowd that i was going to make an ai bot somewhere on the fediverse just to see how people would interact with it fedizens, simply to satify my curiosity, so that’s the context. i just telling people “you’re being an asshole to me and making demands from me while I’m just trying to hear you out, so i don’t feel like changing for you”

          • Libra00@lemmy.worldEnglish
            1·
            10 days ago

            My bad, perhaps the better word to use would’ve been paranoid. Had a similar ring to ‘they only come out when no one else is looking’, ya know?

            • PixelPilgrim@lemmings.worldEnglish
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              10 days ago

              Oh okay. I did have a conversation I tried to explain a litteral conspiracy and I kept getting called a conspiracy theorist