It’s already a stretch to assume that men complaining about loneliness are happy with the number of male friends that they’ve got, but it’s a bigger stretch to assume that what they did to get their male friends should also get non-male friends. There are still men who haven’t realised that women are people and that to befriend them, you need to talk to them as if they’re people, but they’re not the ones referring to a male loneliness epidemic, and would instead blame conspiracy theories where crazed feminists want to do evil deeds or whatever nonsense it is that the likes of Andrew Tate peddle. Plenty of men just don’t meet anyone new, and on the rare occasions when they do, it’s when engaging in a male-dominated hobby or at a male-dominated workplace, and so it’s another man. E.g. for reasons I don’t understand, all the bars near me where it’s quiet enough to have a conversation (the bare minimum to befriending someone) are almost exclusively attended by men. After you’ve shown up a few times, you might be friends with the regulars, but no matter how effectively you make friends with them, they’ll still all be men.
You’re probably right that no one would listen if you made a video, as anyone who needs to hear the thing you’re trying to explain is too entrenched exclusively watching manosphere influencers, and anyone without that kind of terminal brainrot already knows what you’re trying to tell them.
It also is more than a male loneliness problem. There has been a fundamental shift in society in the last decade or so, as we get more connected online we seem to be becoming less connected offline.
It’s already a stretch to assume that men complaining about loneliness are happy with the number of male friends that they’ve got, but it’s a bigger stretch to assume that what they did to get their male friends should also get non-male friends. There are still men who haven’t realised that women are people and that to befriend them, you need to talk to them as if they’re people, but they’re not the ones referring to a male loneliness epidemic, and would instead blame conspiracy theories where crazed feminists want to do evil deeds or whatever nonsense it is that the likes of Andrew Tate peddle. Plenty of men just don’t meet anyone new, and on the rare occasions when they do, it’s when engaging in a male-dominated hobby or at a male-dominated workplace, and so it’s another man. E.g. for reasons I don’t understand, all the bars near me where it’s quiet enough to have a conversation (the bare minimum to befriending someone) are almost exclusively attended by men. After you’ve shown up a few times, you might be friends with the regulars, but no matter how effectively you make friends with them, they’ll still all be men.
You’re probably right that no one would listen if you made a video, as anyone who needs to hear the thing you’re trying to explain is too entrenched exclusively watching manosphere influencers, and anyone without that kind of terminal brainrot already knows what you’re trying to tell them.
Maybe this is the core of what I failed to understand. The male loneliness epidemic isn’t about women. We don’t have male friends either.
It also is more than a male loneliness problem. There has been a fundamental shift in society in the last decade or so, as we get more connected online we seem to be becoming less connected offline.
It started with the near complete disappearance of "third place"s.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place