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    Downvote because it’s a bad ADHD meme and for the goddamn motherfucking censored fuck.

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    Sometimes it’s both, where you mask to seem like the first, while being the second.

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    Fuck it, I don’t seem to have AD(H)D. That’s why I’ve spent the better part of the day recharging so I could pretend to be social in the evening while on vacation with the in-laws and a 2-year old niece. I can’t fucking filter her screams, the noise of having 7 adults around me and I’m so fucking glad of not having kids myself.

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    After years and years of hard work and therapy, I’m now a hilarious mix of the two.

    You might ask, “How is your sink so empty and your kitchen so clean, but your clean laundry is piled so high that this is probably your entire wardrobe here on the floor next to the dryer?”

    Well, I would answer, “How did you get in my house and would you like something to eat?”

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        Interesting take. Care to elaborate what role AI plays in this context? Recognizing swear words in image files, I guess?

        Also I’m willfully using more swear words on Lemmy if it means they won’t farm my comments for training their fucking piss shit AI without my goddamn consent. Horsefuckers!

        • It’s using AI to filter or reduce interactions with words puritans and Chinese censors find “offensive” but to the other responses point, it goes deeper. They train the AI not to cuss, not to be able to discuss sex at all, and to avoid topics that the developers’ companies or countries don’t like. But we’re never shown what they push for or are guarded from by the companies releasing them, so the shift is subtle.

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            May I ask what “Chinese censors” have to do with anything? It’s completely feasible to me that this is an all-American problem, imposed on us for the sake of brand friendliness; same as it’s been for other instances of censorship like network censors on television or the YouTube adpocalypse; and carried over into our language now more generally to end up in a place like lemmy. It’s perfectly explained by the attitudes and surface-level friendliness of “polite society” in western culture. I don’t see the point in using a foreign adversary to explain it away, or pretending that censorship is anything different when it’s done by a government vs private entities that shouldn’t have that kind of unchecked authority over what we’re allowed to communicate in the first place. I also have no reason to believe China gives any fucks about the vulgarity of English speakers on the English internet. It just seems weird to me to bring them up here.

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          The underlying tech doesn’t care about swear words. But, from what I hear, the “AI” models and interfaces that are being marketed for general use have been intentionally trained not to emit such words, and may even be blinded to those words by their creators. I haven’t verified it, but supposedly adding “fucking” to your Google / Bing search query will completely disable their “AI” generated results, e.g.

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    There’s also the type that constantly has extra (possibly clarifying) thoughts in the middle of their typed sentences. So, they use parentheses to add those clarifications because having to retype the sentence would derail their train of thought and they’d then completely fail to convey anything.

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      So, so much. Then realizing you typed two paragraphs replying to a text. Then spend 30 minutes on full re-edits until your self doubt makes you eventually delete it all and simply respond “ok” where normal people only take 10 seconds to type that and yet you get annoyed by their lack of communication. And thus the self hatred spiral continues, as ever.

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      I absolutely detest that kind (the kind who writes a giant parenthetical in the middle if their sentence before one or two words at the end. Just put the fucking parenthetical after the sentence! jfc) of person.

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    I had to set up a project management software to manage my housework. That’s normal, and not a coping mechanism.

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      Goddamnit, another thing I do to cope. I keep asking my doc how to get diagnosed, I just keep getting antidepressants prescribed which do not help.

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        So here’s some important facts I’ve learned from my doctors over recent years. Keep in mind, I’m not a doctor, and this information might be out of date (but I don’t think it is).

        People with ADHD are often comorbid with depression, so if a doctor doesn’t treat the depression first, and gives the person with ADHD the medication to focus, it can result in the person with ADHD having enough focus to successfully make an attempt on their own life.

        Fact two: many persons with ADHD doesn’t make enough seratonin on their own to function, which means if you’re being prescribed SSRIs, you don’t have enough seratonin to selectively reuptake inhibit.

        But since the antidepressants for ADHD are a different class of drugs, many doctors will run through the ‘standard’ list before they get to the stuff that helps ADHDers. And then once they’ve done that, and ruled out all the things, they’ll move to “unconventional” treatment. Partly, this is because the process of trying different antidepressants can rule out things other than ADHD, and partly because they seem to want to rule out every other possible thing in addition to ADHD, before treating the ADHD. And if I were to guess, it’s because giving a person ADHD medication who has a secret something else (like bipolar as an example) even though the person has ADHD, the ADHD medication can worsen the other condition to such a condition that it’s better not to give ADHD medication at all.

        This is why the process takes so fuckin long. And a couple years ago, I would’ve said it was stupid and a massive waste of time and harmful to the person with ADHD. But a year ago a friend of mine with bipolar was prescribed stimulant medication and his life absolutely went off the rails as a result, and seeing that first hand… I’d rather low and slow and not have to experience something like that.

        Sorry for the word wall. I hope this helps!

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          It’s not out of date so much as its woefully understudied. In other words, it could be true, but to my knowledge we really don’t have enough data on cotreatment regimens to back it up.

          There is a known risk factor of antidepressants in general that is similar to the suicide risk you describe with ADHD medication. SSRI’s alone can put you through that process, where motivation increases first, followed after by mood stabilization.

          This is why almost all antidepressants mention “increased risk of suicide” as a side effect. If you are starting antidepressants, make sure you actually understand this mechanism and coordinate with your provider and personal support system to ensure you don’t trust your half-treated brain to make huge decisions during those critical first weeks.

          It’s not just suicide - you might find yourself abandoning otherwise positive employment or relationships because you have zero emotional satisfaction but a sudden influx of motivation.

          The biggest confounding factor is the chicken or the egg - could the patient’s depression be a symptom of their ADHD? That is, could the depression be a long-term psychological consequence of living with untreated executive dysfunction? If their ADHD was treated well, and they felt psychologically “capable” enough to successfully manage their responsibilities and habits, would they still be depressed?

          Or is the depression a comorbidity, and it would independently manifest regardless of the severity or treatment of their ADHD symptoms?

          It almost certainly varies by and within individuals over time, and can be either comorbidity or symptom, or a combination of both, and there’s no real way to tell before treatment.

          Some suggest just starting with whichever disorder presents itself more severely in the patient (e.g whichever has more impact on quality of life). Others suggest focusing on depression, as it carries the more immediate risks like you mentioned.

          It also unfortunately carries a layer of stigma - like you described, an ADHD patient might be offended that their treatment regimen is designed to “keep them safe from themselves”. Which is totally valid clinically, but can be psychologically destabilizing, especially for patients that believe they are not at any such risk right now.

          Sorry for replying to your wall of text with a wall of text!

          TL;DR: we need much more study on these disorders, especially cotreatment studies, but ultimately you should expect there to be differing opinions and hurdles to overcome on your personal journey.

          Everyone should keep an open mind while pursuing treatment, and focus primarily on trying to find doctors and therapists that listen to you and seem to know what they are talking about.

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          This does help, and thank you. In truth, I don’t even want medication, I’m middle aged and this is the brain I’m used to. Would just be nice to understand myself a little better and maybe start getting some better strategies in place.

          It’s just grating that every time I ask, I’m redirected. Maybe they just think I’m pill seeking.

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            I didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD (didn’t even suspect I had it) until I was mid-thirties, and I gotta say… now that I have the medication, I’m glad I have it. It was a long road to get there but I mean, it’s nice to know, you know?

            If you want, my DMs are open. I’m always here if you wanna vent. ♥

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      As someone with severe ADHD this sounds like a great idea. Management is talking about moving me up into a project management role so I’ve been studying the concept and tools, I can totally see how this could help. Thanks for the idea!

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        Would recommend. It’s a lot of work up front: room by room, task by task, repetition rate by repetition rate, priority by priority. Then I found I forgot some things and have to add them. I’m constantly working by what’s the highest-priority>most over-due task. But things are getting done.

        Before, I’d notice the shower would need cleaning stepping into it and forget the shower needed cleaning stepping out of it. Now, the shower still always seems to still need cleaning, but only on the software, I never step in the shower and think it needs cleaning… Rarely anyway.

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          Yeah I’m definitely going to give it a try, thanks again for the idea.

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        I don’t understand? I press the link on my phone’s home page, that takes me to the “things due today page” and then press the little tick box to say I’ve cleaned the shower. After a time the “clean the shower” task will be due again and so the cycle continues. If I’m honest things are usually over due, but it still means that the shower is getting cleaned more frequently than it did before.

        Before, I noticed the shower needed cleaning just as I was about to get in it. The shower would then stop existing just after I got out of it, but a little dirtier.

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    Huh. I guess I’m the fuckit type. I got no patience for pretending to not be me. Not anymore.

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    I’m one of the “fuck it lmao” types and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Life is suffering, but I’m also very easily amused and thrive in chaos.

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    I’m held together by anxiety, caffeine and an unhealthy amount of self hate.

    I also have 7 list, a board, 3 reminder app and leave sticky notes everywhere but I least I’m productive ( please help )