Yeah that’s similar to my experience except I have a mistress for a wife (we met in the scene actually)

And thanks, I think that a lot of people who’ve only done online discussions may not understand all the value that comes from a local scene from vetting of partners to vetting of information and skills. I know how good some of my skills are because people I’ve learned to trust as level headed and experienced either taught me or advocated for the people who did. And I can weigh advice by the fact that I have a general read on the giver’s success with it