So last time they asked how is my relationship with my parents when my mom was in the room… 🤦♂️ how was I supposed to honestly answer that lmfao…
So I told mom to leave…
So today she told me she want to be in the room with me from now on…
Because shes “worries” they will try to “trick” me into talking more which then “they would use as an excuse to overprescribe” dosage that is too high… or whatever
And she uses dad and the blood pressure thing as an example like she says: “everything was fine until [dad] mentioned ‘high blood pressure’ to the doctir and now the doctor is prescribing so much ‘unnecessary’ medications”
Also she’s kinda into Traditional Chinese Medicine…
Funny thing is the next appointment is virtual… so I guess I’m just gonna “forget” to remind her about it lol.
So yeah… that’s the story of my life
Like… before y’all yell “narcissist”… I do genuinely think there is a part of her that “cares” about me… but I feel like its a kinda twisted and weird way of “love”…
Like it comes with control, “mother knows it all” type of shit
I think I’m starting to understand the term “emeshment”…
Now I think I understand why China has a bunch of depressed people that are unemployed/don’t really feel motivated in life… (see: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tang_ping)
I doubt most people in China even seeks treatment for depression…
Why was I born into this culture? 😭
I’m so lucky to have emigrated… cuz How do young depressed people in China even deal with this shit? I mean with this shame culture… 🤔
(anyways feel free to ignore, just need a place to sort of vent)
I’m happy to hear that you have a therapist.
It sounds strange that the therapist didn’t suggest for the parent to leave before asking about the relationship. Very proud of you for asking your mum to leave when the topic came up!
If you manage to speak to them alone, you could tell them that you are having issues with boundaries with your parents and you need their help to make sure your therapy can be made safe and with kept confidentiality so you can speak freely. Then you can figure out together how that can be implemented - maybe by having every other session be private, ot by having the therapist ask your mother to leave for like 30 min every session.
You need privacy to figure out who you are and where to find your own strength and courage without your family.
Good luck!