• Bojimbo@kbin.social
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        1 year ago

        What makes the space toxic? It just seemed like they were trying to make an inclusive space and had issues being able to moderate homophobia and anti-trans bigotry coming from these two instances and are finding alternative options. I understand why many (myself included) wouldnt like this, but I haven’t seen much toxicity inside the actual instance.

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            1 year ago

            Being anti-transphobia is not toxic.

            And wow, thanks for linking to a completely random post of a singular person’s negative experience with bottom surgery, you using that incredibly specific post certainly doesn’t tell us what you think of trans people.

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              1 year ago

              People love to find rare negative examples and signal boost them to the stars, if they don’t like something. I wish people were trying harder to be the people Mr. Rogers knew they could be.

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                  1 year ago

                  I went to r/actual_detrans to ask for negative experiences and reasons not to have surgery before I went ahead with it. I didn’t ask on r/detrans because it was TERFy AF when I went looking for possible information sources. I wouldn’t have participated in a takeover effort, though. That’s shitty.

                  Toxic positivity is real.

                  That having been said… Yes, rare. Detransition is rare. On a planet of multiple billions of people, yes, you can find “a lot” of people, in terms of strict numeric count, but they’re a tiny fraction of all people who transition.